…and for eight years in a row I either avoided church completely on Mother’s Day, or I sat in the sanctuary in a puddle of tears ugly crying. Infertility had reared its ugly head in our marriage and won – but God had other plans.
Adoption was always in the back of our minds. At the beginning of our relationship we talked about how adoption would be a part of building our family… we just thought adoption would come after we had biological children – but God had other plans.
For 5 years we stared back at negative pregnancy tests. We underwent fertility treatments, tests, surgeries… you name it we tried it. Everyone kept telling us – “it’s all in God’s timing”, or “you are young, you have plenty of time to have babies.” All of the things that no hopeful parent wants to hear.
In late 2012 we were praying that pregnancy would finally happen for us and had plans to do more testing and procedures in the new year. Instead, more medical issues arose and I had a stroke. A few months later I had a tubal ligation because pregnancy was deemed to be much too dangerous for me. I was devastated and guessed this had closed the door to us ever becoming parents – but God had other plans.
After much prayer and consideration, we were ready to pursue adoption. Though I was bitter about not having bio children, I knew that God had laying adoption on my heart all those years before was not by accident.
I wish I could tell you that choosing adoption was all rainbows and butterflies, but that wouldn’t be the truth. Walking the road of infertility for so long was extremely difficult – but so was walking the road to become an adoptive momma. Everyone told me that adoption was much like riding a rollercoaster. We got on and tried to enjoy the ride. Paperwork, doctor’s appointments, background checks, more paperwork, waiting, home study visits, interviews, reference letters, profile books, being told “no” time after time, failed matches, waiting, calls with potential moms, flying back home with an empty carseat… it was HARD, but oh so worth it (so much so that we are doing it again! )
In April of 2014, our dreams of becoming parents finally came true. OUR beautiful daughter – the one that God always had plans for, was handed to us from the most wonderful, selfless, loving momma. She had entrusted us to be mommy and daddy to her baby. I finally got to celebrate Mother’s Day with a baby this side of heaven -because God had other plans.”
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